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  • Alyssa Abrahamson

Stop trying

Question for you: how many times do you say that you will “try” to do something?

Do you try to show up for that zoom birthday party or do you show up? Do you try to go for a walk or do you go for a walk? Do you try to call your mom more often or do you do it?

Trying is not the same as doing. You either do something, or you don't.

Truth bomb: try is a useless word that accomplishes nothing.

When you say you’re trying, you actually don’t have to do anything. It makes it easier for you to let yourself off the hook if you fail. Trying gives you an out.

Trying limits your potential.

As soon as you say you’re “trying” to do something, it provides you with an excuse for why you don’t accomplish that thing. “Well, at least I tried.”

Don’t mislead yourself into believing that trying is the same as doing.

Take a look at the difference:

  • I am going to try to stop checking my phone the minute I wake up.

  • I will stop checking my phone the minute I wake up.

Which one commands action?

Do a little self-reflection and think about how often you “try” versus how often you “do.”

What are you trying to do?

  • Are you trying to eat healthier —or are you eating healthier?

  • Are you trying to find a job —or are you finding a job?

  • Are you trying to drink less —or are you drinking less?

Changing the way you speak about something changes your thoughts and beliefs about it. When you change your belief system, your energy and awareness change, and so do your results.

When you say you’re “doing” something, it sparks an energy and intention around your action and your follow-through.

But in reality, most of us are more comfortable with “trying” because if we “try,” it shields us from failure.

Or maybe you really just don’t want to put the effort into something you think you “should” do, or lack confidence in, so there’s always, “Well, at least I tried.”

I understand all of that. But how about doing something different and see how it feels?

Say b-bye to the word try. Experiment with removing it from your vocabulary.

Make a decision to do something or not. And be okay with it. Feel the freedom that comes with making a decision.

When you shift from “I’ll try” to “I will” or “I am” you shift into doing and that’s an accomplishment to feel great about!

Let me know how you feel and what successes you have after you’ve said b-bye to try.

Love, Your Wellness Coach,


P.S. Do you wake up, immediately turn on your phone, and subsequently feel stressed and overwhelmed? Need help with creating a healthier morning routine? Read my 3 Tips for a Life-Altering Morning.

December 15, 2020


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