• Alyssa Abrahamson

Uh-oh, where did my self-awareness go?!

I recently hurt a good friend’s feelings.


I did something mindless, without thinking or being aware of how my actions would impact her.

She was upset.


I felt terrible.


I apologized.


She accepted my apology.


I like to pride myself on being self-aware and in touch with how my actions and words affect those around me.


But you know what?


We all make mistakes and have times when we are inadvertently insensitive.


The truth is, we tend to think we're more self-aware than we actually are.


Reflecting upon my actions that disappointed my friend, I got curious and asked myself genuinely, “What was I thinking?” “Why did I do that?”


I can tell myself good reasons to justify my actions, but if I’m really honest, my actions were mindless and disrespectful and I hurt someone’s feelings.


Of course that was not my intention, but that’s how my behavior came across.


What’s ironic is that today’s new podcast episode is about cultivating self-awareness and I had just had a discussion with her about self-awareness and about the importance of being aware of our behavior and how it impacts others.


Oy. Did I feel like a jerk!


But I let it go because it's unproductive and unhealthy to get stuck in being upset with yourself. Letting go is an act of self-acceptance, but that’s for next week’s podcast episode!


This experience served as a reminder that cultivating self-awareness, and relationships, is an ever evolving journey.


So, please join me in listening to my podcast episode, “Cultivating Self-Awareness: The Self-Series Part 2.”


Love, Your Wellness Coach,

Alyssa


P.S. The month on my podcast, Positively Anti-Inflammatory, I am discussing ideas related to the self: self-care, self-awareness, self-acceptance, self-love, and self-compassion, so stay tuned for the continuation of, "The Self-Series."

November 10, 2021