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  • Alyssa Abrahamson

Applying the 5 Love Languages to Self-Love

When it comes to love, joy, and healing, we often look outside of ourselves and channel our energy into our relationships, ignoring our own needs. 

What if we put that same energy into loving and caring for ourselves?

You’ve heard of the “5 Love Languages”? The concept identifies 5 ways we give and receive love in relationships. 

What about self-love? 

We understand the necessity of self-love in wellness and healing, but we might need a reminder.

So let's apply the 5 Love Languages to Self-Love. 

1. Words of Affirmation: Think or Speak Self-Love

Verbal expressions of love, encouragement, and praise. 

  • Look in the mirror and give yourself a compliment. 

  • Write a love letter to your younger or future self

  • Create a gratitude list

2. Acts of Service: Do Self-Love

Showing yourself love through your actions. 

  • Cook yourself a delicious meal

  • Declutter your space

  • Give yourself permission to do nothing at all

3. Quality Time: Being Present with Self-Love

Giving yourself your undivided attention, prioritizing yourself, and doing something you enjoy. 

  • Visit a museum

  • Take an art class

  • Watch the sunset

4. Physical Touch: Feel Self-Love

Doing things that will make your body feel good and increase your physical wellbeing. 

  • Stretch and self-massage

  • Take a bath with epsom salts 

  • Give yourself a hug

5. Receiving Gifts: Absorb Self-Love

There are many ways to give yourself gifts. 

  • Take yourself to get a manicure or pedicure

  • Invest in your education like taking a workshop you’re interested in

  • Buy yourself flowers

When you identify and understand your self-love languages, it gives you a deeper awareness of how to meet your own needs and this is awesome! 

What is one act of self-love you will do today?

Love, Your Wellness Coach,


P.S. Ready to create more self-love? Ready to receive personalized anti-inflammatory diet and lifestyle support for your chronic health issues? I would love to help you. Email me to set up your free wellness consult call.

P.P.S. Listen to episode 173, “Applying the 5 Love Languages to Self-Love.”

April 17, 2024



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